Wednesday, August 3, 2016
Where do we start!?
How do I listen to someone when I disagree with them?
There are many ways to answer this. It takes a lot of forgiveness, compassion, patience, and courage to listen in the face of disagreement. I could write pages on each of these principles, but let's start with the one thing that makes forgiveness, compassion, patience, and courage possible.
We must work to hear the person not just the opinion.
My friend, Agape, says it like this:
“Hear the Biography, not the ideology. ”
When someone has a point of view we find difficult to understand, disagreeable, or even offensive, we must look to the set of circumstances that person has experienced that resulted in that point of view.
Get their story, their biography, and you’ll open up the real possibility of an understanding that transcends disagreement.
Like the roots of a tree, our stories, which can create our beliefs, are completely unique, and also connected. It is through story that we can find common ground enough to co-exist in the face of great, often necessary, tension.
When you find yourself in disagreement, just ask one question:
“Will you tell me your story? I’d love to know how you came to this point of view.”
From the blog, “Urban Confessional” July 27, 2016
How do we change the world
How do we do it
But spouting out ideas
Even our wisdom
Or by listening,
Having compassion, and actively caring
I love the response above
Open ended… simple….
Tell me about yourself
How you came to this place….
Imagine how the world would change if we just listened to each other
Help me to be quiet